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When You Might Need a Life Coach Over a Therapist: Dating Edition

If you have wondered what exactly the difference between therapy and life coaching is and if life coaching is Walmart therapy as I once did, read on! As a 22-year-old dating life coach who has received and considered providing both services, here are some factors that might help you understand the difference and decide what is best for your unique needs and goals. 

Therapy vs. Life Coaching: What’s the Difference? 

Both are amazing and have their own unique benefits, but they serve different purposes. 

  • Therapists are trained to help you work through deep psychological issues, trauma, and mental health disorders. They dive into your past to help you understand and heal from your experiences. 
  • Life coaches, on the other hand, focus on the present and future. We help you set and achieve goals, improve your current situation, and work towards a more fulfilling life. 

When to Choose a Life Coach Over a Therapist 

So, how do you know if you need a life coach instead of a therapist? Here are some dating-specific scenarios where a life coach might be the better fit: 

1. You’re Ready for Action, Not Reflection 

If you’re feeling stuck in your dating life and want to make some changes, a life coach can help you take actionable steps towards your goals. We focus on strategies, skills, and mindset shifts that can help you start seeing results quickly. For example, if you’re tired of endless swiping with no matches, a life coach can help you revamp your dating profile and improve your approach. 

2. You Want to Boost Your Confidence 

A lot of dating success comes down to confidence. If you struggle with self-esteem and want to feel more confident in your dating life, a life coach can provide practical exercises and mindset techniques to help you build that confidence. We’ll work on things like body language, conversation skills, and self-presentation. 

3. You Need Accountability 

Sometimes, we know what we need to do but struggle to actually do it. A life coach can be your accountability partner, helping you stay on track with your dating goals. Whether it’s going on more dates, stepping out of your comfort zone, or trying new dating strategies, we’re here to keep you motivated and accountable. 

4. You’re Looking for Clarity and Direction 

If you’re feeling lost or unsure about what you want in a partner or a relationship, a life coach can help you gain clarity. We’ll work together to identify your values, deal-breakers, and what you truly want out of a relationship. This clarity can make your dating journey a lot smoother and more enjoyable. 

When to Consider a Therapist Instead 

While life coaching is great for forward-focused goals and practical strategies, there are times when therapy is the better option: 

  • You’re dealing with past trauma or deep-seated emotional issues: Therapists are trained to help you work through these issues in a safe and supportive environment. 
  • You have a mental health disorder: If you’re experiencing symptoms of depression, anxiety, or any other mental health condition, a therapist can provide the appropriate treatment and support. 
  • You need to understand your past to move forward: If your past experiences are significantly impacting your current dating life, a therapist can help you explore and heal those wounds. 

Both therapy and life coaching can be incredibly beneficial, depending on your needs. If you’re looking for actionable advice, accountability, and strategies to improve your dating life, a life coach might be exactly what you need. But if you’re dealing with deeper emotional issues or mental health concerns, a therapist can provide the support and healing you require. 

Remember, it’s all about finding the right support for your individual situation. And if you ever need help figuring it out, I’m here for you! 

Happy dating!  

Rae Weiss

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