Going to college is a significant milestone that represents the beginning of a new chapter filled with opportunities for growth, independence, and self-discovery. However, as I experienced during my first year attending university, this period of change also comes with its fair share of challenges and emotional turbulence.
Many people might not realize it, but it’s normal for new students transitioning into college to experience feelings of grief. In fact, according to the American College Health Association’s National College Health Assessment, nearly 60% of college students reported feeling overwhelming anxiety, and 40% reported feeling so depressed that it was difficult to function at some point in the past year.1 The key is to understand the grief you’re experiencing and how to handle it, so you can better manage your emotions during future major life changes.
What Causes These Feelings?
Grief during this time can stem from several sources:
- Separation from Family and Friends: Leaving behind a familiar support system can be daunting. The comfort of home and the presence of loved ones provide a sense of security that is suddenly disrupted.
- Loss of Routine and Familiarity: College life often means a new environment, new routines, and new expectations. The familiarity of high school and the predictability of daily life are replaced with uncertainty, requiring an adjustment period that can prove challenging.
- Academic and Social Pressures: The academic demands of college can be overwhelming, which can create stress or even lead to feelings of anxiety. Additionally, the pressure to make new friends and fit in socially can add on to existing stress.
Tips for Handling this Major Life Transition
- Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s okay to feel sad, anxious, or overwhelmed. Allow yourself to grieve the changes and understand that these feelings are a natural part of the transition.
- Stay Connected: Keep in touch with family and friends from home. Regular communication can provide comfort and remind you that you have a strong support system.
- Create a Routine: Establishing a daily routine can bring a sense of stability and control. Set regular times for studying, exercising, and socializing to help manage your time effectively.
- Seek Support: Don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Many colleges offer counseling services that can provide guidance and support as you navigate this transition. You can also seek off-campus therapy in your area for long-term support in managing your emotions and feelings of grief.
- Get Involved: Joining clubs, organizations, or sports teams can help you meet new people and create a sense of community. Engaging in activities you enjoy can also serve as a healthy distraction from stress.
- Share with Peers: Remember that you’re not facing this college transition alone. Sharing your feelings with other students experiencing similar challenges can provide comfort and reduce feelings of isolation.
- Practice Self-Care: Prioritize your physical and mental health. Ensure you’re getting enough sleep, eating well, and finding time for relaxation and your favorite hobbies.
- Set Realistic Goals: Understand that it’s okay to take things one step at a time! Set achievable goals and celebrate your progress, no matter how small.
- Be Patient with Yourself: Adjusting to college life takes time. Be patient and give yourself grace as you adapt to your new surroundings.
Conclusion
Transitioning into college is a major life change that can evoke a mix of emotions, including grief. Recognizing and addressing these feelings is crucial for a healthy adjustment. By acknowledging your emotions, staying connected with loved ones, creating a routine, seeking support, getting involved, practicing self-care, setting realistic goals, and being patient with yourself, you can navigate this transition more smoothly. Remember, it’s okay to feel overwhelmed, and seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Embrace this new chapter with an open heart and know that you are not alone in this journey.
Reference
American College Health Association. (2024). National College Health Assessment: Academic year 2023-2024 survey results. https://www.acha.org/ncha/data-results/survey-results/academic-year-2023-2024/
